i’m tired of having to misgender myself for paperwork
Actually, they’re asking what gender were you born with. This helps them to know what diseases and sicknesses you are most likely prone to get~! Some of these can be very lethal or serious, however, and so it is much better to tell them the information. It would be okay to write your preferred gender in a little note beside your answer, but please, please do tell them what you were born as!
I am concerned for everyone’s safety who does this u-u~<3
Thank you for listening, and I hope you consider this~~~! c:
Thank you for pointing out this important safety information! It is very disconcerting to me when I see people saying these things about sex questions on health forms.
While honoring people’s preferred gender presentation is important, so is ensuring that people receive proper health care. For example, trans men may need access to gynecological care or trans women may need access to prostate cancer screenings.
Interesting. Perhaps it would be easier to answer the question if it asked for “sex assigned at birth,” or even just “sex” instead of “gender” since we’re talking about biological traits here? A couple of extra words would make things clearer so why not use them.
Yeah it would be easier for me to answer things like that if they said something really obvious like “sex” or “biological sex” or something.
no that’s still bullshit and doesn’t work
first off “”’preferred”’ gender” is condescending as fuck
"born as gender" is cissexist and misgendering, thanks for telling us what you really think
and none of this actually helps your doctor know what healthcare concerns you might face, contrary to uninformed popular concern-troll cisgender opinions
"biological sex" is a lazy shortcut and while it’s efficient for (dyadic, or non-intersex) cis people, it’s actually really fucked up and harmful for trans people on a medical level
trans (and non-binary people) may have medically transitioned in a variety of ways, which can never be accounted for by “biological sex” and are in fact endangered by ignorant doctors (and tumblr concern-trolls) thinking that assigned birth sex tells them everything they need to know about their reproductive system and hormones and genetic makeup and risk for diseases
AMAZING how this would work so much better if they just ASKED (and BELIEVED) people, “do you need gynelogical care?” &c
((also guess what lots of trans women need gynelogical care and do you really think that “they want your birth sex!!” grants them access to that no it fucking does not. and insurance will ALWAYS fight you if you’re trans no matter what LEGAL GENDER you are or what your “birth sex” was))
ALSO that little “gender:” box determines what pronouns they use for you and what title eg Ms./Mr. and how they refer to you overall, which it shouldn’t but guess what it does, and even if they make a little “note” in your record that gets buried at the bottom and is never ever noticed by new or even recurring staff, and it goes on all of your documentation which is 1. outing and dangerous 2. horrible for your mental health 3. misinformative and reductive
so NO, it would be WAY BETTER even if doctor’s offices just asked for your gender identity (not ~~preferred~~, fuck off), because it’s likely that then they would notice you aren’t cis and have to ask questions they would otherwise have assumed and probably gotten wrong. plus there’s the whole “list your medications and surgery history” which is often a big giveaway for folks with medical transition history
PLUS not every doctor’s office is trans friendly, shocker, lots of people are fucked up, paramedics still refuse to touch and treat trans women who are dying, that still happens, and it’s less likely to happen if you aren’t advised to “just put birth sex!!” on everything
tl;dr you are really cis, advice troll, and it shows and you are wronger than wrong, please stop hurting trans people by giving them horrible and invalidating advice dressed up as concern, this kills people and your input is irrelevant.
P.S. “biological sex” and “sex” are still really fucked up categories, where do you put a trans person who’s medically transitioned in X ways but not Y, or in X and Y and also Z? this is where we get into godawful legislative-medical gatekeeping of when someone “really” transitions and has “changed sex” and can legally change their gender marker. so no, not a fan of those as replacement questions. ask about gender identity first and foremost (not “”“preferred”“” or “presentation” either). treat the person with respect. then ask followup questions as needed, about hormones and reproductive organ status and genotype and whatever the hell, preferably with justification as to why you need to know (hey doctors, we don’t trust you for good reason).
P.P.S. what the fuck makes you assume this image was about doctors? OP said “paperwork” — do you know how many goddamn forms want your gender, for no reason. Pandora, because ads and marketing. the fucking pizza delivery online form! usually as a required option with no way to scribble in because computer radio buttons! just. huge derail from the very huge pervasive real problem of “girl or boy?” being a question EVERYWHERE and being incredibly draining and misgendering
^ Reblogging for commentary by @epochryphal, bolding mine.
I’ve seen this go around my dash a few times and never knew what to say about why it makes me so angry, thank you for putting it into words.